Bullying is Not Okay

Written by Deborah Jordaan

Good day beautiful inhabitants of our planet. Today I am writing on a subject we all recognise. I myself went through bullying at school and my brother was taunted because of his disability when he was younger.

I heard of a little boy of ten that was taunted daily at school. He lost interest in school work and he would tell his mommy he is feeling ill just so that he would not have to go to school. He reported the incidents to the teachers and the mother was told not to go to the education department of the area as the school will investigate the incidents. The bullies kept on taunting the young boy that the mother approached the parents of the children as it was becoming a big problem. The main bully was making his two friends also bully the boy.

Since the subject was discussed between the parents and the school; the pupils have for now stopped the taunting and the little boy is doing much better at school.

This is primary school what is going to happen in high school?

The other incident in the same school was of an eleven-year-old girl who slit her wrist with a scissor in the class while the teacher had left the class. When asked why she was doing that she said that she was teased by everyone that she had HIV because she was such a skinny little girl.

Now I ask you did this little girl report it and if she did why was no one listening that she got to this point where she was self-mutilating? How is this little girl going to cope in high school?

When I was younger I was verbally teased for being a nerd but today teasing is to an extreme. There is violence and weapons that get involved at some stage in the higher grades. What is happening?

Yes I understand teachers are under pressure from the children that are not behaving but then their bad behaviour should go on file and that file should follow them to high school so that the school is aware of the insolent pupil coming to their school and decide whether they want that pupil. Kids should be profiled from a young because if it is ignored the gangster mentality takes over and that in turn creates murderers and psychopaths.

Sad pupil being bullied by classmates at corridor in school

I am no child psychologist but have seen these things first-hand. So, who do we blame for this child’s behaviour? Are parents, teachers or older siblings at fault?

The unfortunate thing is that the bullied child will either be suicidal, antisocial or everything else that goes with mental health. The bully in turn might end up as a criminal when he/she becomes an adult.

Communication is key to making any system work. So lack of communication creates havoc and violence. The taunting might start off as a simple joke but eventually, become a serious problem.
So listen when a child speaks they might just be telling the truth and need your help. Not everyone is an attention seeker.

Be blessed and love and nurture your children.

6 responses to “Bullying is Not Okay

  1. My heart goes out to children who are being bullied. Surprisingly enough, if we deal with it from within, it follows us into adulthood. Just this morning I did a reading for someone where the archetype of the Bully was presented.

    From my research, my own experiences and through the eyes of many victims, I have learned that the bully is often a victim of bullying and abuse themselves – whether a parent, older siblings or even peers in another environment, the bully feels neglected, unheard and bewildered. In an attempt to cope with the warped sense of love they feel, they resort to bullying others who are less able to stand up for themselves.

    To deal with bullying, we need to look at the environment of the bully: what is happening at home? How are the parents treating the child that causes him or her to mistreat other children? Chances are that there are already deep rooted scars in the bully’s own psyche and attention, compassion and love is the only medicine for healing.

  2. Grazia Martienssen

    Another thought provoking article. I feel that while there should be consequences to bulling,the bullies ( as well as tjhose that are being bullied) should also have counselling and their situation should be looked at.( after all children learn what they live and the bullies are hurting and maybe need to be taught/ shown a different way to take out their own frustations and deal with their issues?) What does anyone else think?

  3. This is a very wise and practical article and important reminder 👏

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