Monthly Archives: October 2022

Selfishness is the Word…….

Written by Deborah Jordaan

Good day to all the wonderful humans that read our stories, without our readers our words are in limbo but our readers embrace our talent. Thank you.

Today I am writing about the person that takes care of a patient. Whether it is a nurse or a family member the caretaker is sometimes taken for granted. The patient can be selfish and not consider the person taking care of them, they might also want to do things and go places but sometimes the Caregiver has no choice as they take care of the patient twenty-four hours a day.

The Caregiver can get lonely and feel like they are alone. The Caregiver also needs a support system as the patient family might not assist the Caregiver. Working twenty-four hours a day is strenuous.

Yes, the Caregiver has chosen to do the work they do but if they are emotionally tired they will be of no assistance to anyone including their own family.

In Afrikaans, there is a saying, ‘Jy druk my in n blik,’ which means your space has been compressed to such a small size that you cannot move.

Caregivers that take care of a family member do not have it easy as they do not have choices. The Caregiver feels obligated to take care of the patient as the patient supports them financially.

When does the relationship become abusive in a sense? It becomes abusive when the patient verbally abuses the Caregiver. Even emotional abuse is abuse.

Once the Caregiver starts feeling lonely and excluded from the world, problems are created. The Caregiver starts to feel resentment and used. The patient needs to realise that without the Caregiver the situation can become difficult. When a Caregiver studies, they are told that they should not allow manipulation and being used by the patient and the family of the patient.

It is amazing how the family does not really care about the patient in some scenarios, but when they want to sound intelligent and voice their opinion they expect the Caregiver to bow down.

I have worked as a private Caregiver a few times and have met good and bad families. I think some family members have a guilty conscience so they decide they want to butt in the situation of the patient.

Yes, the family might be employing the Caregiver but that does not mean they can talk to you like they want. We are all human beings and we are all on different levels of life, there should not be an issue of rich or poor.

The Caregivers are sometimes seen as the bottom of the barrel but without us, a system can stand still. We are important to the recovery of a patient, we do the clean-up job if the hospital cannot assist. Do not undervalue your Caregiver as they sacrifice a lot for your health. They give up their lives and take your life as theirs. They hardly see their families.

This may seem like a complaint session but it is to shed light on the issues of some Caregivers. If you have a Caregiver, appreciate them. If they are very trustworthy you have a gem of a person. Be blessed and always take care of people as if they are your own loved ones.

Anna’s New Life

Children’s story written by Grazia Martienssen

Good day children, Flyer the seagull here, today let me tell you about:

Anna‘s family have recently immigrated to a new country. They were living with granny but have now moved to a new house. They are also learning a new language because they do not always understand what people are saying, nor do they always have the right words for what they want to say.

Are you learning a new language?
Do you know the right words to use when you want to say something?

Mommy’s Funny Shopping Experience

Their relatives help by interpreting and translating words for them when they are around. They are not always available when needed though, so sometimes Anna and her family say funny things by mixing up words. Here is a funny story that happened to Anna’s mom one day when she went shopping.

One day Anna’s mom went shopping for soap, but some words got mixed up in her mind, so she was asking all the shop assistants for rope.

“Do you sell rope?” she was asking.

They all said “No.”

Poor mommy, she was getting so frustrated. Finally, she walked into a small shop and saw soap on the shelf. She got so excited she took one of each type. Later they went to visit granny and mommy said,
“I cannot believe only one shop sells soap.” Granny looked puzzled and replied,
“No they all sell soap dear.”
“What word were you using, are you sure you were saying it right,” asked granny.
“Yes I was saying rope,” said mom.
Granny started laughing and explained to mom she had made similar mistakes many times.

Anna also misunderstood her friends and teachers at times, and her friends would laugh at her. So, Anna came up with a bright plan.

She soon started teaching them her language so that when they misunderstood her, or could not pronounce words, she could be the one to laugh instead. They were soon all laughing together. When she told her family her plan, and that she was teaching her friends their language, they all said what a clever plan it was.

Dad also misunderstood things at times but as he worked with his brother uncle Angelo, it was easier for him because uncle Angelo was always there to translate what people said.

What is your home language?
Do you know someone who struggles with the language?
Which language do they speak?

Trying New Things

Anna also goes to her friend’s houses at times and tries new delicious foods. She then invites them to eat at her house to try her country’s delicious food. She is learning about her new country’s traditions and customs and shares her traditions and customs with her friends.

Every time she tells granny about her new experiences or the new food she tried granny says,
“That is what makes the world beautiful and interesting, if we all ate the same food and did everything the same way it would be boring.” Granny continued on to say “Although we are all the same in some ways, we all need and have a right to food, shelter, acceptance and love.”
Anna and her parents also share their experiences with their family, relatives and friends in their home country through social media.

Have you tried new foods?
What foods have you tried from a different country?
What’s your country’s food?
What’s your favourite food?

We are Divinity

Poem by Neshni Naidoo

Tall and proud we stand
On the shoulders of our motherland
We remember those who have passed
And the legacy that they left us
They taught us to be strong
To stand up when there’s wrong
That when it’s dark outside
God will be our Guide

I will strive to love
And always serve
In my heart I will see
All as a part of me
Peace it’s clear to see
Is within you and me
If we fill our thoughts with love
And speak and act with love

Love like the brilliant sun
Residing in the heart of everyone
For we are Divinity
This truth sets us free
We are Divinity
This truth will set us free